Be Happy at Work

Do you work in competitive and demanding environment?  I did and still do, to a degree, as a freelancer.  I spent the first half of my 18+ year career worried, paranoid, and feeling inadequate.  Isn’t that sad?!  I spend the beginning of the second half practicing being a cool, confident contributor and after that things started getting good!

My transformation started with a caring, helpful mentor who believed in me and encouraged me to take a Dale Carnegie course.  I wrote about other ways that course affected my life here.  This course could honestly help ANYBODY but I think it is especially helpful for people who have trouble getting out of their own way!  People with a bad habit/s that keeps them from relating well to others.

Not only do you learn how to relate well to others but, in this course, but you must practice with tons of public speaking!  Was it hard for me?  Yes!  But man, did I have a breakthrough!  How do you change bad habits?  At first you fake it.  For me I had to pretend to be confident and content.  Sometimes I still have to pretend!  Stand up straight and smile.  Are you worried about something?  Pretend to laugh it off and think about how awesome you are instead!  Sounds silly but try it.  Did you say something in a meeting and it wasn’t acknowledged?  Say it again!  Is there something obvious that need complaining about?  Play dumb and pretend not to notice.  After a while you will find you believe these things and others will too.  Different people have different lessons to learn but these were some of mine.

I will never let go of what I learned in that course because of how much it changed my work and life!  Interested in taking the course?  Learn about it here.

No time for a course?  Buy the book!  With discipline you can do it on your own…

How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Amazon description…  For more than sixty years the rock-solid, time-tested advice in this book has carried thousands of now famous people up the ladder of success in their business and personal lives.

Now this previously revised and updated bestseller is available in trade paperback for the first time to help you achieve your maximum potential throughout the next century! Learn:

  • Three fundamental techniques in handling people
  • The six ways to make people like you
  • The twelve ways to win people to you way of thinking
  • The nine ways to change people without arousing resentment

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  1. I never took the Dale Carnegie course but I did attend a Toastmasters meeting to practice public speaking. It was very hard for me as well. I found a career coach to be helpful and probably saying the same types of things as the Carnegie course.

    Honestly, corporate politics is hard to deal with and if you are actually good at it, then that might not be such a good thing! I’m glad that faking it til you make it worked for you. I think the most powerful thing I learned was to see the glass half full when I hit frustrations at work. My career coach would guide me to see everything as a gift even when it was something bad.
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    • Seeing the glass half full is important for me too!

      I agree, being too good at corporate politics implies lack of honesty and that is not good.

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